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Processing a new diagnosis
A diagnosis of DMD can be a huge shock for parents, siblings, extended family members and friends. It is normal to feel an overwhelming mix of grief, confusion, anxiety, loneliness and helplessness as your family’s life has been forever changed. Everyone will have different ways of getting through this time but it’s important to know that help and support are available for you, your child and family. Hear advice on processing your diagnosis from a community member with shared experience.
Getting help processing a new diagnosis
There are many ways you can seek support as you process a new diagnosis:
- A psychologist is a university-qualified health professional who can help you talk about your thoughts and feelings to understand and cope with the challenges you and your family are facing. Visit our page on Psychology for more information.
- A counsellor is a trained professional who can help you talk about and work through problems. Visit our page on Counselling for more information.
- A social worker can provide information and support to people experiencing a range of issues including family problems, anxiety, depression, crisis and trauma. Visit our page on Social Work for more information.
- A genetic counsellor can help you understand how DMD is inherited and whether there are any implications for other members of your family. Your specialist will be able to advise whether a genetic counsellor is required. Visit our page on Genetic Counselling for more information.
- Your state or territory neuromuscular organisation can provide support, advice and information about living with DMD. Visit our page on state and territory neuromuscular organisations for more information.
- Your GP can talk to you about a mental health plan and how you can use this to help you access the support and services you need. Visit our page on Wellbeing for more information.
- Other people and families living with DMD have also experienced the emotional rollercoaster that comes with a diagnosis of DMD and are able to understand exactly how you’re feeling. You are not alone. Connect with other people and families living with DMD in The Loop Community on our Forum.
How to talk to your child and others about a new diagnosis
Having a conversation with your child about their diagnosis is not easy. In fact it will probably be one of the hardest talks you will have. But, like all difficult conversations, it is important and necessary.
There are a lot of reasons why parents may not want to have this conversation, mostly centred on wanting to protect their child.
But avoiding the topic with your child is not helpful. Children are often aware of the differences between themselves and their siblings and/or peers and may hear their condition being discussed during medical appointments.
There is no right time to have this conversation. Research suggests the earlier you talk to your child about their condition, the more natural the conversation will become. The important part is to pick a time and commit to it.
So it is crucial that you have a role in your child learning about their diagnosis. This will enable you to support your child as they process the information and to be on hand to answer any questions your child may have. Together, you can learn about the journey ahead.
It will also allow you to:
- provide answers to questions in an age appropriate way
- correct any misinformation your child has heard or read
- show your child that you have faith in their ability to handle difficult conversations.
Ultimately, these conversations are an important step in providing your child with the tools to succeed, navigate their world and develop independence and self-advocacy skills.
There is no right time to have this conversation. Research suggests the earlier you talk to your child about their condition, the more natural the conversation will become. The important part is to pick a time and commit to it.
Some important do’s and don’ts:
- Do be positive but also realistic
- Do reassure them that they have done nothing wrong and this is not their fault
- Do tell them they will do many wonderful things in their lives – they may just do them differently
- Do tell the truth. Answer all their questions.
- Do consider your language. Try to avoid negative or emotive words, such as ‘suffering from a condition’.
- Do use daily living examples that they can relate to.
- Don’t avoid answering questions and don’t shut the conversation down.
If you are having difficulty starting the conversation, try asking a couple of questions such as ‘How are you feeling today?’ or ‘Do you know why you are tired?’
Remember, it is okay to be upset during the conversation but try to avoid breaking down as this will only cause your child greater distress. Children are resilient and they generally handle information of this nature far better than adults.
Understanding DMD and how it’s Diagnosed
About DMD
DMD is the most common form of childhood muscular dystrophy (a group of diseases that cause your muscles to become progressively weaker). The symptoms of DMD are usually first noticed in early childhood, often between the ages of two and five years. DMD mostly affects boys but, in rare cases, can also affect females. About 1 in 5,000 newborn boys are affected by DMD.
What causes DMD?
DMD is caused by a change (also called a mutation) in a gene. The gene affected in DMD helps produce a protein (proteins are the building blocks of our muscles, organs and other tissues) called dystrophin. Dystrophin is usually found in our muscle cells. It works together with other proteins to strengthen muscle fibres and is important for forming healthy muscles. It also protects muscles from injury as they contract and relax and helps repair damaged muscle cells. People with DMD don’t produce dystrophin. Without dystrophin, muscle cells are more easily damaged and can’t work properly, causing weakness of skeletal, respiratory and cardiac muscles.
Skeletal muscles enable us to move our body and to stand and sit. Initially a child with DMD may have difficulty getting up from the floor, running, jumping and going up stairs. Respiratory muscles are those that are used for breathing and coughing. As DMD progresses physiotherapy or a cough assist machine can be used to assist in clearing mucus from a chest infection. Medications and scans of the heart are implemented to monitor cardiac muscle weakness.
How is DMD diagnosed?
Diagnosing DMD can be complex and involve a number of steps. Children can be diagnosed at any age but are usually diagnosed between the ages of three to five years.
Parents are usually the first to notice signs of DMD in their child, including:
- Experiencing delays in their overall motor development such as being slower to sit, stand or walk
- having a waddling type of walk
- being clumsy or falling over often
- finding it hard to run, jump or climb stairs
- needing help to get up from the floor and may “walk” their hands up their thighs in order to stand up (known as Gower’s sign)
- walking on their toes
- having larger than normal calf muscles (muscles at the back of the lower leg)
- showing signs of learning or communication difficulties, such as a delay in learning to speak.
A child showing signs of DMD should be assessed by their doctor and referred to a paediatrician (a doctor who specialises in health and diseases in children) for further tests.
The doctor may request blood tests to check the amount of an enzyme called creatine kinase (CK) in your child’s blood. CK often leaks from damaged muscle cells into the blood. High levels of CK in the blood can suggest a muscle problem but does not confirm DMD.
If creatine kinase levels are high, your child will be referred to a paediatric neurologist (a doctor who specialises in childhood brain and nerve conditions) at one of the major children’s hospitals. A geneticist (a doctor who specialises in genes) may also be involved for genetic testing. DMD is diagnosed with a further blood test to check whether there is a fault in the dystrophin gene. This test is usually arranged by a Neurologist or Geneticist. This can be a 2 stage test with initial results taking 8 – 12 weeks and a further 16 weeks for more detailed testing. This test can be done through the public hospital system at no cost but will involve a fee if done privately. Further information about genetic testing can be found on the Healthdirect website. During this time your child may be asked to see a specialist physiotherapist to test their movement. Visit our page on Physiotherapy for more information.
The genetics of DMD
DMD is a genetic disease, meaning it is caused by an error in one of our genes – the dystrophin gene. In DMD, some of these mistakes are inherited (passed down from parents to their children) and there may often be a family member who has the condition. But gene changes can also happen randomly in the child (spontaneous mutations) with no family history.
DMD is inherited in an X-linked pattern because the dystrophin gene that can carry a DMD-causing mutation is on the X chromosome. Every boy inherits an X chromosome from his mother and a Y chromosome from his father, which is what makes him male. Girls get two X chromosomes, one from each parent. Each son born to a woman with a dystrophin mutation on one of her two X chromosomes has a 50 percent chance of inheriting the flawed gene and having DMD. Each of her daughters has a 50 percent chance of inheriting the mutation and being a carrier. Carriers may not have any disease symptoms but can pass the gene on to their future children. Most carriers have no symptoms of DMD however some carriers will experience symptoms such as muscle pain or weakness and are at a higher than average risk of developing heart problems. Carriers should undergo a complete cardiac evaluation in late adolescence or early adulthood, or sooner if symptoms occur, and should be evaluated every 5 years.
You can read more about the genetics of DMD by Save Our Sons Duchenne Foundation.
For more detailed information about how DMD is inherited visit Your Genes, Your Health.
Long-term outlook
Living with DMD usually means life, and the future, looks different from what you had planned. However children and adults with DMD can lead fulfilling, rewarding lives just like everyone else. School, friendships, sports and recreation, arts, university, work and travel are all possible when you have DMD.
Inevitably the lifespans of people with DMD are shortened, due to breathing complications and heart muscle weakness that develops over time. The good news is that due to greater understanding of the condition and international consensus on standards of care, many people are surviving well into their third decade of life (mid to late 20’s). Increasing numbers of Australian men with DMD are living into their fourth and even fifth decade (40 – 50 years) and have completed school, studied at university, worked, loved, bought a house and/or travelled.
For more information about living with DMD, overcoming some of the day-to-day challenges and where to get the right support: